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The Emotional Support Aisle

A diagnosis, a treatment and a shopping list for a very specific plot twist. Send one to a friend who needs it.

You broke up.

Acute, but survivable. The last time you felt this way you also survived, though you don't remember that right now.

He ghosted you.

He is not dead. You checked. He posted a story at 2 p.m.

He said "wasn't looking for anything serious."

Neither are you. Which is why you are now looking at the 45-minute drive to the nearest animal shelter, for reasons you will describe as "just to look."

He's "going through a lot right now."

So are you. You're going through a lot right now with a 1,000-piece lighthouse puzzle, in silence, like a woman in a Nancy Meyers film who owns her home outright.

He texted "u up?" at 1 a.m.

You are up. You are up making bread.

You saw he has a new girlfriend.

Fine. This is fine. You are typing "this is fine" into a search bar for some reason.

It was actually your fault this time.

You've done the reflecting. The reflecting is why you feel worse. He was, annoyingly, nice.

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What to put in the box when a friend is going through it: a breakup, cramps, finals, a layoff, a new baby. See all the care packages →

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